S&M is about inflicting and taking pain for pleasure, whereas D/s is about power exchanges that don’t necessarily have to be physical. Some Doms might enjoy elements of S&M and like to inflict pain on a willing sub partner, but others might not.

It was 6:30pm I just finished up at the office when my cell phone rang. It was Carol a lady I had met last week at a conference. I was always a bit dominant in our marriage, but several years ago my husband came to me and said he wanted a full FLR (female-led relationship). I replied that I doubted he was serious but I would write up a non-negotiable list of rules and consequences and he would have to sign a contract to accept them all. I decided to make it pretty outlandish so he would say he couldn't accept it and it would be clear he wasn't serious about FLR. I developed the list over several days, surprising myself that the first three were about bathrooms! I guess I felt more resentment about them than I realized:We have been married 14 years. We discovered the components of a wife led marriage (WLM) or female led relationships (FLR) almost 3 years ago, and actually renewed our wedding vows to be consistent with a wife led marriage. Our renewed wedding vows included Gary’s commitment to “obey” Kathy, and for Kathy to accept her role as head of our household and the final authority on all decisions in our home. We are both professionals in business with college degrees. Most people would look at Gary and see a powerful, masculine and assertive man. But at heart he is a masculine, but naturally submissive man. Kathy, on the other hand is a warm, feminine and sexy woman. She is also a natural born leader and thrives on making things happen by exerting her authority in a very positive manner. Gary discovered the subject of domestic discipline while searching for more information on WLM(wife led marriage) and steps couples in wife led marriages take to maintain the woman’s authority. Gary has always responded very well to reinforcements and punishments as a way of steering his behavior. while our WLM was going very well compared to the traditional marriage we had the first 11 years of our marriage, it still had a few challenges. We started practicing domestic discipline about 6 months ago thinking it might enhance our already fulfilling wife led marriage. Incorporating domestic discipline into our WLM has been one of the best things we have ever done. It has had a profound and positive effect on Gary’s behavior and obedience. Domestic discipline has also reinforced Kathy’s authority, resulting in what we now feel is a near perfect marriage. The history of this transformation is outlined in the opening entries in the diary. Essentially, though, my story is that of a wife who was coaxed and manipulated by her husband into wearing and doing things that satisfied his sexual fantasies, and then giving him more than he bargained for when the conditioning changed her for real. Perhaps it should serve as a warning to all latently submissive men who dream of their partner taking control of them and humiliating them. In short, be careful what you wish for. Alice thinks I’m being overly tough but accepted my new ruling after I explained my reasons and how it’s something so very important to me. After the first weeks, she reports no major problems aside from a small residual frustration and longing, which is to be expected. What does this tell us? It tells us that, if you want to satisfy your partner in bed, you need to learn how to dominate her. You need to learn to wear the pants, be more selfish, and act like the alpha you are. As a wife-led marriage, it’s all about what I want and what I wanted was something new and fun. That’s exactly what I did. A wife’s FLR rules

While it is most common to think of the dominatrix as a woman wielding power over men, many do have female submissives. Also contrary to popular belief, the dominatrix doesn’t always inflict physical pain on the submissive. The domination may be verbal, involving humiliating tasks and servitude. Now. If you hear the words -obey now- you will be put in to this incontrollable trance again moving your eyes to uncontrollably stare at any ladies feet around you. You will not be able to resist and command you give you. You will be away in your mind how you hate there feet and there shape but you will not be able to resist the sexual tension they cause and be forced by your only sex drive against your will to do ask they tell you. Do you understand? Dave softly said, yessss. If i am manually instructed to perform the female ejaculation it cannot be in the way a male masturbates. i have to manually rub my clit/penis head the way a female would rub her clitoris. This will be done till a female ejaculation is complete. There’s usually a dominant person in most relationships — even vanilla ones. For example, it’s common for one person to take more responsibility for finances or to be more socially outgoing. The difference is in D/s relationships; those roles tend to be much more pronounced and explicit.The reason it’s especially important when it comes to dominance is that your sub’s role may involve them shouting ‘no’ and acting like they have no control when, in reality, they’re enjoying it. You need a way to know if at any point they really want to stop; when ‘no’ actually means ‘no.’ What you have done with Mike/Michelle is just so Delightful. Creating a Better male through Feminization is something that all Women need to realize is the Best way going Forward. That is what the New Age Lifestyle is All about. The Difference is that in the New Age of Female Empowerment, once Women have Totally Feminized their men they really need to Celebrate them as the male sissies that they are. If we refer to them as she and her, then we reinforce the Patriarchal stereotypes of Women being “weak” and “helpless”. Women have come such a Long Way, and now as they have achieved POWER over the once Dominant male, it is very Important that we associate the traits of “Dependence”, “Submissiveness’ and “Prissiness” to the male. Will it be “embarrassing” calling your Totally Feminized man a man….YES, for him because the Males have Created the Narrative, But to Instill Female Power over the male, he needs to be associated as the Pretty, Feminine and docile being that he is! Well one night, Dave heard something down the hall. he got up to investigate. When he came up to his daughters door, her heard some whispers and his daughter giggling. Dave thought, That's weird, we didn't plan on having any sleepovers tonight. then he peeked in the door. There was his daughter siting on the bed with her boyfriend. Dave hit the roof, her barged into her room and screamed at her boyfriend, get out, get out now!! Jen's boyfriend ran to the window and jumped out, running across the lawn to the road.

Being obedient to a Dominant woman and living a life of servitude under her leadership can provide submissive men an enormous sense of calm and deep-rooted feeling of contentment. Serving women in a FLR gives men purpose. The factor that made it work for me was the build-up to activity getting in the right frame of mind, soak in a scented bath, make-up, shaved, nice music, lovely lingerie and the rest that you are likely familiar with. This does not mean I’ll put Alice into chastity; our sex life will continue as before. The single difference to our relationship will be that Alice will never be allowed to orgasm/ejaculate again.

A Shift in Power

Love your post Lady Alexa! Similar to you, my wife denies me orgasm via the honor system and not with a cage. She has always been very random of when she would allow me an orgasm, not allowing me to know until the last second, when I am on edge and begging, as to whether or not I can cum. This has been an exciting and torturous mind game for me. Although random, the average time between orgasms has lengthened over the years. We are at the point where I typically go 3+ months without an orgasm. I think nowadays she rarely even thinks about orgasms for me and she may be heading down the same path as you, with not ever allowing one.