We were both in need of company, so we became easy and relaxed with one another, having a lot in common; being of similar age, and laughing at the same things. We sat on her couch drinking wine, I pretended to like her cat, we flirted for a while, I was nervous. Similar to Sally, Annette (straight) said that sex had disappeared from her marriage after her breast cancer treatment in part because the treatment changed her body: “We caress each other, but between the medications, and I lost, you know, my breasts and that was a pretty sexual part of my body that is now, it’s not the same kind of physical passion.

I had just kind of come out to friends and family that I was bi, so she had me over and cooked for me, and the connection and fireworks were so, so strong. Not to mention that plenty of straight women who haven’t had lesbian sex get turned on by the idea of girl-on-girl hookups.Yet when she wished to engage in different sexualized acts designed to avoid pain, her wife was less interested. Long story short, I was fully honest with her about my lack of same-sex experience and she wanted to take it slow. She graduated with Honors from Brown University with a double major in International Relations and Comparative Literature (French and Spanish). Next, the “node” function, which highlights passages within each interview and also aggregates selected text from multiple transcripts, was used to group all discussions of sex and sexuality.

In accord with participants’ narratives, health events include any event, concern, or development related to either spouse’s mental or physical health; aging events include bodily changes related to aging—primarily menopause and weight gain; and caregiving events refer to caregiving responsibilities in relation to children or adult parents. Treat them mean, keep them keen”, might be some weird gameplay that works in heterosexual relationships, but I’m afraid that sh*t doesn’t wash with lesbians. Unable to hold my pleasure inside any longer, I orgasmed intensely and began to feel her shaking to climax as well, my tongue inside her vagina as she came. Danielle (straight) denounced the idea that her sexual relationship indicated the strength of her marriage, saying, “I couldn’t even imagine having a relationship solely based on sex.It's been a while since I have read a book that is so entertaining, not to mention so encouraging for the culture of liberty. In our early 30s my husband and I decided to open our marriage to some sexual exploration and went on a date with a couple. But, I am happy to report that all my future encounters after that night have been infinitely better. When some lesbians described how their sexual relationships had changed over time, they referenced “bad jokes about lesbians” and denied that lesbian merger played a role; as Kathy (lesbian) said, “It’s not like we were [the stereotypical] lesbian first date with the U-Haul moving in, but we were pretty much inseparable. Sexual scripts have been traditionally patriarchal at their core: If a woman’s sexual response can only be “activated” by a man, the idea of a sexually active female couple becomes not only unthinkable but also a social and moral transgression (see Rich, 1980).