And my purpose in life-despite what fashion magazines say-is something more sublime than just looking good for men.

There is only one relationship that should define our self-worth and only one source from which to seek our ultimate happiness, fulfillment, and security. Just like the pain of being burned is what warns us to remove our hand from the fire, emotional pain warns us that we need to make an internal change. By taking away all other hand-holds, all other multiple choice options, He has made the test simple. Like the loved one who hurts you again and again and again, the more dunya hurts us, the more we inevitably detach from it.Like the sun that sets at the end of the day, so too will Ramadan come and go, leaving only it's mark on our heart's sky.

Through the loss, we reach a level of sincerity and humility and dependence on Him which we would otherwise not reach—had it not been taken from us. Providing a manual of sorts, Reclaim Your Heart will teach readers how to live in this life without allowing life to own you. Allah tells us in the Qur’an: “…But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. The process of first emptying the heart can be found in the beginning half of the shahada (declaration of faith).And then knowing that we’re likely to get the wrong answer, He gives us a multiple choice exam with only one option to choose from: the correct answer.

It is a book about how to keep your heart from sinking to the depths of that ocean, and what to do when it does. It is a book which allows the reader to clearly distinguish between their cravings, needs, desires, and the biddings of the Lord of the worlds. A manual of sorts, Reclaim Your Heart will teach readers how to live in this life without allowing life to own you. On the contrary, true love, as God intented it, is purest when it is not based on a false attachment. We are told in the Quran: “…whoever rejects evil and believes in God hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold that never breaks.If you seek Him, God can raise you up, and replace the darkness of the ocean, with the light of His Sun. Qur’an, 2: 256) There is a crucial lesson in this verse: that there is only one hand-hold that never breaks.

The mind and the heart that was created by Allah, for Allah, becomes the property of someone or something else. She has written several books, including the international bestseller “Reclaim Your Heart” which has been translated into several languages, and “The Daily Reader for Contemplative Living. When we are given hardship, or feel pain, we often fail to consider that the experience may be the direct cause or result of another action or experience.

When we miss a plane, lose a job, or find ourselves unable to marry the person we want, have we ever stopped to consider the possibility that it may have been for our own good? For true love lies in sanctifying one’s heart for the one whose love was the first and will be the last — Allah! We don't need to become just like men to be honored, and we don't need to wait for a prince to save or complete us.